Do you know the difference between a bystander and an upstander? A bystander is someone that does not speak up or act when they see acts of intolerance taking place. They just go about their business. An upstander is someone who takes action when they see an act of intolerance take place. Remember, to be an upstander you do not have to even say a word your actions can be as simple as not laughing at someone or holding someone’s hand to show support. So are you a bystander or an upstander?
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Changing the World One Person at a Time
We watched the Heroes in the Hallway video yesterday,it sent a powerful message.By being a hero in the halway and standing up toa bully you are putting at least one perons problems in a spot where it can’t reach them non- violently.It was sad to see the other students oblivion to the victims.But I know that if you pay a little more atttention to your suruondings you can help others in the greatest of ways.
– Nimrat Mann
Just yesterday I watched the Heroes in the Hallways video and I really feel like I could relate to the kids in there. A few years ago I was the one sitting alone, being made fun of, and it made me feel like a complete loser cause no one really liked me. Plus the song that was with the video was one of the few songs I listened to during that time. It made me feel like I wasnt the only one going through something like that and there could possiby be other people going through the same thing and I didnt have to feel so alone.
I’m a lot better with that sort of situation now but once in a while I’ll feel like that again and I’ll return to those same songs and they usualy help the situation a bit. After watching this movie it made me feel like i should be doing more to stop the bullying issue. Since i know what its like to bullied, i want to be able to atleast be there for others if they are being bullied, because i never had anyone there for me during that time and i want to give them something i didnt have. The smallest comfort zone for me made a huge difference.
– Jacky <3
My response to the “Heroes in the Hallways” clip.
The clip really made me think about bullying and how it happens anywhere. That and the parts showing that anyone can help or make a difference made we want to do more. From being in this program we help people all the time that we can but the clip made we want to help more like being more direct at telling someone when they’re being rude. That was my opinion but it would be nice to hear everyone else’s opinion.
-Johnny Jones
After watching Heroes in the Hallways, I thought that all the kids holding up signs that say “i will step up” is good. But gaining the title Hero of the Hallway is a very good goal for you. It might be hard to achieve but it is a good goal.
-Tyler Crozier
We watched the Heroes in the Hallyways video yesterday and i thought that it was a good overview of the sadness of bullying and how common it is.
-I think that anyone can make a difference even by doing the smallest things.
-Stand out and be different. make a new friend.
-help someone out.
-Many people are being bullied and you dont even know.
– I remember at my elementary school seeing kids alone but I didnt do anything but I know i could haveand should have. I would have been a better person just by hangin out with him and making him feel welcome. If everyone did their part to help stop bullying, our schools would be a better place where kids would enjoy going to and not have to worry.
In the video clip ”heroes in the Hallways,” it shows you that bullying can happen to anyone, anywhere. It makes you think back to a time or multipul times when you or someone around you said something hurtful and nobody stood up to stop you/them. It really shows you how much you can help or hurt someone. It’s really sad.
In this video, they show a lot of kids just minding their own business. Watching these kids made me realize that sometimes we get so involved in our friends and work at school that we don’t see the kids who get bullied. Maybe if we stopped and looked around every now and then, we might find someone we could reach out to.
When I saw that short video, I had alot of things going in my mind. Before back when I was in third or fourth grade, I had bullying problems as well. The thing was I never knew just how to stand up for myself. There was a couple of times I tried, but couldn’t do it. So this video touch me at points.
One of the things that caught my eye was in a hallway there was this girl holding a sign saying “Don’t ignore me”. But other kids in the hallway were just passing her by, as if she wasn’t there.
At the end I was glad that the kids held signs saying “I will step up”.
I thought it was amazing how big the number of people who drop out due to bullying. I also thought about how I was a bystander in elementary school and how I should have helped. I enjoyed the video and thought it was very well made.
The movie showed me that many people are bullied. It is not just one person being repeatedly bullyed. People may feel alone, but the truth is that there are many others who are feel exactly the same way. Anyone can make a difference it’s not just one person. People are willing to stand up and make a change. Are you??
Don’t be afraid to stand up for people that you don’t know, who are getting bullied. If the person is not standing up for themselves then maybe you should stand up for them.
I thought the movie clip was sad. Bullying is everywhere, one person can make a difference and everyone should step up when they see it.
Sowe we watched the heroes in the hallway film. It was pretty intense I thought. The kid sitting alone really got me. I always get sad when i see kids alone. MY cousin has trouble making friends and he onced asked my grandma to ask me how to get friends.
The heroes in the hallway movie really showed how people felt about bullying and they wanted to stop it and be heard. The movie also showed how anybody could be a hero…. even in the hallway. When people are being bullied some of them are feeling like they want to drop out of school and I think that that shows how strongly people feel who are being bullied and even people who arent.
I was thinking, how could people be so mean to cute innocent lil’ kids. I was also thinkin about the bullies,cause some of them might have trouble at home and they need a way to get all that anger out. So I was also thinkin of them and maybe how they felt. Also ways of helping them. Also ways of helping the lil’ kids and thinkin ways to stop bullying and how all the lil’ kids must feel. I just wish i could help.
nina
I think I am a upstander because I help people sometimes!!
hi pam! how are you doing? my name is aaleeya. i have watched heros in the hallway to and i am impressed about how they made that clip about you doint have to be bullied by bullies. you have to stand up to them to make them feel that your not scared of them.
When we watched the “Hero’s in the Hallway” video I was really impressed by how much was said, using no words! I thought that the video was really cool! I find it really sad that there is so much bulling, but it does happen and it happens every where! i don’t think you could go to a single school and not find bulling! When I saw the kids holding signs all over the place I realized how true it is almost everyone has been bullied! when see someone bully, I think about what there situation might be at home. Maybe they are having problems so they pour it all out by bulling other people! So you can be a hero and be the upstander, don’t worry what others may think stand up and you will be that needed hero!
I understand KATIE you have to stick up for yourself if not you should have someoneone to stick up for you would you think of yourself a as a bystander.
Like in Hero in the Hallway I stood up and I knew that the bullies would do something to me so I told insted of geting in somebodies biussness
I understand your pain actually everybody does it may seem like it never happened to them but it has,even the popular group or crowd wich ever you prefer has been through it and thats why they or any body else makes fun of you or starts a rumor about you they want you to feel the pain that they did.
Hi,sean We liked your writing.we liked the hero in the hallway.would you act to be different if bully camed to you?
Hi Sapphire,
Such a simple yet powerful statement. We all need to stand up for others and not be so focused on ourselves.
Lesley M.
Hi Katie, You are absolutely right about that bullying is everywhere. The movie is pretty sad, thats true.
Hey!you know you could help people by standing uo for people.All the signs are sad because many people are dropping out of school because of bullying.You can’t help by being a bystander you need to be a upstander by helping people.Standing somewhere and watching bullying isn’t the right thing to do.
I think that to that any one can stand up when they get bullied.
I’m am one of those lil’ kids Trust me there not so innocent.But..that is bad I realate to a bystander and a upstander
dear Cole,
I know how you feel when you saw the video about Heroes in the Hallway.I was so suprised about how many kids don’t go to school no more just because about bullys.so one time when some kids were talking about a friend they were laughfing but i wasn’t laughfing so i was a bystander.I hope you write soon.
Hi Savanna,
I think that you are absolutely right because bullying is not right and the people that got pick from the bullies have not done anything wrong to the bullies and they are doing that for no reason.
-Valerie
BEING AN UPSTANDER ISNT THAT EASY BACAUSE IF YOU TELL THEM TO STOP THEY WILL HIT YOU TO.
I think that people can stop the bulling dont be afraid to stop it.
sean I agree with you.People be calling me a midget.They are big are mean.I understand pain.
I watched that video I can relate to that but I think that whoever bullies should see how it fells.
Hi,Katie
you are absoultly right,that people could make a difference.
I understand Sapphire, it is scary to stand up for other people you don’t know.
Arryanna
I feel your pain.I don’t like people calling me names.I’m not a midget.
When I watched this video, I could see that many people were always alone of left out. Its sad to see what people can do to each other and not even relive how much it hurts the other person.Bullying isn’t just violence its also verbal. Just by calling someone a name, can go a long ways. Now after seeing this movie, it makes me want to go out there and do more than just stand there and watch kids get bullied. I relized that most kids are so busy worrying about how they fit in or if people like them that they don’t know when they truly hurt someone. This video i think really reaches out to people and it makes them relize how they can make a difference. My advice to you is if you ever see someone at lunch or at recess by them selve, go talk to them and hang out. Even if you don’t know them. Trust me it will make their day!
In “Heroes in the Hallway”, it shows how just one person can help someone and prevent a bullying problem. Do you think you could be that one person to someone else? I try to be an upstander more often than not. “Heroes in the Hallway” shows how people feel about bullying, even though they don’t say a word. When they showed the little boy sitting alone during lunch, that got me. I always try to be the person who goes up to kids who are alone and I’m usually the one who goes up to new students and asks them if they need help finding their way around the campus, or if they just need a new friend to hangout with at lunch. I can admit to being a bystander, but aren’t all of us a bystander at one point?
Tyler, I really like your statement that “anyone can make a difference even by doing the smallest things.” The one small thing I’ve found to be very empowering is to simply not laugh when an unkind remark or joke is aimed at someone else.
Mrs. Desler (teacher in Elk Grove)
Juan, you are bringing up a very good point!!! As a 4th grader, it would not be wise or safe, for instance, for you to step up to a group of 8th grade who are in the process of bullying someone. Part of becoming an upstander is learning safe stategies.
In dealing with older bullies and/or a group of bullies, is there an adult you could turn to? Someone who could step in and stop a bad situation? I think there are many ways of being an upstander – either directly or indirectly.
Mrs. Desler
Good point, Savanna. It’s worth thinking about what makes a bully a bully. I seriously doubt if anyone was born a bully. But what event or events in their lives do you think have transformed them into bullies?
Valerie,
I think that you are totally right!!:)
You GO GIRL!!!!!!
~ savanna
Our trip was amazing. Talking with Jay was very interesting and helped me have a better understading of the holocaust. He told some really emotional stories that touched my heart and made me stop and think about the future and how it could happen again someday. We stayed the night at Pam’s daughters house and she was super nice and generous. We watched two video’s the first was short and was people playing music and singing all over the world. That was really happy. The second was the movie called “The Boy in the Striped Pajama’s” and i wasn’t impressed at all. but it was about the holocaust and it was sad. we visited the beach and the lighthouse after and headed home. On this trip i had a blast!
I think that I am both a bystander and upstander. I will stand up for something if feel enough emotion toward it. I want to be a upstander, but sometimes it can be hard because you know that you could get emotionally or physically hurt.
Are you a bystander or an upstander? When I was asked this question, I thought of course i was an upstander. But when I thought about it, I realized that I wasn’t completly Upstander material. No one is perfect and I am not actually an upstander all the time. Being in junior high, you will see alot of things. Some of those things you might want to laugh at even if it is wrong.
I think that a lot can be said through your actions and gestures.
Its great to be an upstader but sometimes you put yourself in the line of danger. Just remember the situation you put yourself in is a big risk.
LOve – Joem
I agree with Joem, you really need to watch the situation you put yourself in. Its great if you stand up for someone but if you’re going to get physically hurt then you should most likely stay out of it. Your physical health isnt worth the risk.
Jacky <3
But you are clearly an upstander too, Jason. Wish there were more ‘Jasons’ in our hallways!
Everyone is the same inside, even if they aren’t the same on the outside.
Don’t be afraid to be yourself.
Don’t be afraid to speak up for people that are being hurt verbally, mentally, or physically.
Don’t be silent, stand up for what you think is right.